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Reply #118 bakawali_04's post
mmm kalau 4 thn tak leh paham lagi.. even 5 pun.. maybe kena tunggu bila dia besar siket.. dlm 7-8 thn, then baru boleh explain..
my exp, umur 5 thn cume tau parents not together anymore, mausk skolah rendah, know what divorce means..  |
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Reply #118 bakawali_04's post
hmmm anak I umur 5 tahun...I tunggu setahun lepas cerai baru cakap dia.
u pun kena ready and see when yr child is ready to tell her.
I told her because I can see she is taking it really bad the past one year.
masa I cakap dia I memang dah sedia...tak nangis or emotional sekali even masa anak I nangis. I just hug her and reassured her. |
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Reply #121 LostSoul's post
ha ah I cuma cakap tak tinggal sama. sebab I tau dia confused. the Divorced word tu I tak guna.
anyway children understand more than we give them credit. they can feel. |
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Reply #120 zanorba's post
nak tanya sikit apasal anak u tension?
maybe I can learn fr yr experience...to understand my daughter esp emotional well being |
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Originally posted by SleepyFish at 19-2-2008 10:31 AM 
hmmm anak I umur 5 tahun...I tunggu setahun lepas cerai baru cakap dia.
u pun kena ready and see when yr child is ready to tell her.
I told her because I can see she is taking it really bad ...
insyaallah.. by that time, saya dah ready..
cuma mungkin sbb benda baru.. n budak2 kan suka tanya..
ialah yang sulung tu mmg rapat dgn ayah dia..
skit2 ayah.. aper2 mesti ayah.. so susah skitla nak adapt..
n saya nie cepat sedih.. asyik nak mengalir je airmata...
sampai dia ckp.. 'ibu jgn nangis, ibu nangis.. esha pun nangis'..
n nanti dia kesat airmata sya.. uhhh anak2 mmg sumber kekuatan kan??? |
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Reply #119 kikilalat's post
Hi Kiki ...........to answer u r question.
Citer kami ni tak de sape kat opis yg tau. Senyap2 je ...... walau pun ade yg suspek tapi kami tak penah declare. konon2 nak tunjukkan pd sume org yg kami mmg tak de pe2. Sbb tu bila kengkawan ajk pi majlis dia sanggup jugak aku ikut 
Dia cuma dpt bertahan ngan x-wife dia 6 bulan jer........tu pon hari2 tgk aku kat opis dua2 asyik nak nangis jer....... lps 2 bulan dia minta tukor branch lain. Tapi mungkin jodoh kami kuat kot ........ dia divorced & dtg cari aku balik......... panjang citer ni ooo.
Dipendek ........ akhirnya kami kawin juga. |
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Reply #123 SleepyFish's post
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agree.. they may not understand.. but they can feel.. only sometimes they got confused by the situation. thats why divorced parents hafta work together to ensure the transition period is smooth sailing, esp for the kid.. |
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Reply #125 bakawali_04's post
i pun kuat nangis thats why masa I cakap tu memang dah betul2 ready.
no worries sis bila masa tu sampai u akan tau apa nak buat.
Insya Allah
pagi ni pun dia tanya saya sedih ke? sebab dia cakap part mata putih mama tu merah... |
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Reply #128 zanorba's post
kekuatan tu datang tiba2 walaupun ada macam2 perasaan yg muncul.
thanks for sharing yr experience saya pun tengah belajar hari2 macam mana nak tackle my daughter's emotional well being. |
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Originally posted by zanorba at 19-2-2008 10:41 AM
SleepyFish...sy tak boleh imagine bagaimana awk hadapi saat2...sure b4 tht sedih giler kan 
To bakawali pulak...better tunggu bila u dah betul2 ready-mental & emosional, camne nak hadapi r ...
thanz for the advise..
btw sya prob. cuma yang 1st.. yang 2nd tu.. kecik lagi..
kitaorg start ader prob. pun dia baru 1 thn..
so x baper paham sgt..
yang touchy si kakak la...
sebab dia mcm paham..
cuma tak tau nak ckp.. |
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pergh..
sedih siot citer2 korang neh |
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Reply #127 LostSoul's post
yup..
that is why I see my ex is slowly putting down his guard and being less angry towards me...he said in an sms the nurin thing made him see things in a diff perspective.
so kita pakat to do the best for dalya. |
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Originally posted by SleepyFish at 19-2-2008 10:44 AM
i pun kuat nangis thats why masa I cakap tu memang dah betul2 ready.
no worries sis bila masa tu sampai u akan tau apa nak buat.
Insya Allah
pagi ni pun dia tanya saya sedih ke? sebab di ...
thanz.. atleast saya boleh prepaire.. |
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Reply #124 SleepyFish's post
Sbb apa? Alaaaa x yah tau la...if u ada ikuti thread2 sy, u tau kenapa...TQ.
In general budak2 memang dpt kesan dr perhubungan parents, make it gaduh2 or nangis...& bila mrk lihat parents gaduh/nangis, depa pun terkesan...most of the time ada emosional changes, & attitude (murung, pemarah, sensitif) dan jugak kesan pd pembelajaran mrk.
Dan bila ank2 mengadu mrk tertekan dgn ibu bapa, mrk tak bohong! Tinggal lg kita sbg parents camne nak handle tekanan mrk...kita sepatutnya absorb tekanan tu dr mrk! |
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Reply #133 SleepyFish's post
lucky dalya... to think what happened to me, it was not so.. i was left to sink or swim.. thats why my grandparents are like gems to me.. none whomsoever can ever take their places.. top notch in my heart. |
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Reply #126 MamaAzlina's post
lor... awat lah takmo declare plak?... rahsia punyer rahsia, sendiri sakit jiwer... ker masa tuh dia dah jadik tunang orang?
anyways... thanks for sharing citer ngko... and yup. jodoh korang memang kuat. cuma nyer, kalo aku la... takkan sanggup aku pi majlis pernikahan orang yg aku cinta... bley jadik merang otak beb!  |
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Reply #135 zanorba's post
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Originally posted by zanorba at 19-2-2008 10:49 AM
Sbb apa? Alaaaa x yah tau la...if u ada ikuti thread2 sy, u tau kenapa...TQ.
In general budak2 memang dpt kesan dr perhubungan parents, make it gaduh2 or nangis...& bila mrk lihat parents gadu ...
tu la budak2.. cepat perasaan sebenarnya..
n saya pun risau kalau2 anak2 saya merasai kesan
dari perhubungan kami yang x baper smooth tu..
takut effect jangka panjang.. |
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