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Author: eastrun

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Post time 9-8-2008 02:49 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by eastrun at 7-8-2008 22:45
Argh...adik saya umurnya tiga belas...

Sakitnya hati bercakap dengan dia...asyik dia je nak menang...siap suka perli2 lagi...argh..

Memang bebudak macam ni ke....
....hehehehe...aint thats what all little siblings are supposed to do??...to irritate the older siblings??....


...anyway....there are three main skills that u need to learn and apply in order for u to tackle your teenage brother nie yang obviously going thru teenage identity and attitude crisis...and these three skills are.......communication...respect and negotiation...

...kita cakap pasal Communication dulu ok....nie maknanya u talk to each other...it also means that u listen to each other....make a rule that nobody shouts......and paling perlu...if u feel upset about something...talk to him and sort it out in a friendly manner...rather than u keep it inside...sampai dah tak bley bendung baru ko nak settle...dah leceh beb...

...kalau semasa discussion nie darah ko menyirap giler dan terasa ko akan hilang kesabaran ko...hang on beb...control macho ko...take a break and vent out your anger kat pokok pisang blakang rumah tu...
  
...ok...skarang...kita cakap pasal
respect
plak...

...kalau ko nak people to treat u nicely...then u have to treat them nicely gak lah...people who treat each other with respect will get along together much better than if they are rude...loud and selfish...  

...how to respect each other?...ok...gini...

~use your mannerss
~dont use rude language...
~no put downs..
~encourage and help each other lah...
~and lagi satu...everyone needs some space at times...respect each other needs to be alone ke...
~respect each other rights..  

...skarang
negotiation plak...

...now this one can be very difficult to learn...being the elder one...u have to remember that this does not give u any more rights than the others in the family...  
...kalau nak successful negotiation... u must always be fair...use your good communication skills and remember that u are trying to find a solution which will bring something good for everyone...

....trusting each other is a big part  of negotiation...
  


Talk quietly
Respect each others rights to their opinion

Understand each others needs
Say what u want to get out of the process
Try to find out what you agree on

Idea-sharing gives u lots of ways to solve the problems
No put-downs allowed
Good solutions are when everyone gets something of what u want....   


...eerrr...i hope sikit banyak..the above could be of some help...  

...amacam..???..ko ingat ko bley buat tak nie semua???....



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 Author| Post time 9-8-2008 03:06 PM | Show all posts

Reply #41 blackmore's post

semua tu maybe tak boleh...but aku cuba...
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Post time 9-8-2008 05:23 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by eastrun at 9-8-2008 02:31 PM
ok, hzln...you je la macam malaikat..puas hati?


hahahahah...patut lah kau tak mampu sebulu dgn adik kau....mcm ini rupanya kau ni....

p/s: sila pm email adik kau....aku nak berkenalan...kami sebaya...

[ Last edited by  hzln at 9-8-2008 05:25 PM ]
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Post time 9-8-2008 06:33 PM | Show all posts
apa masalahnya laritimuq? adik umuq 13 tawun pun tokleh settle?

tu belum baby berak lam suor lagik..haa

belum mak nenek atok yang dah tua tak larat jalan seme tuh..dengan kerenah depa..camna nih?

camna lah adik sendiri leh sakit ati ko ha? kalo bukan perangai budak2..takkan ko nak arap dia pangai oang dah matang..nanti ko lak terkujat

patut kalo ko lai tua..ko leh paham seme tuh..kalo dia berak lam suo dan dakwa dia btui pun tak pa tau haaa...

dengan kasih sayang ni..jangankan manusia..dunia ni pun tunduk

tapi paham lah skit..takkan depan ko rimo pun ko nak kasih sayang di baham dek rimo sesia jek zaman bujang ko nanti hihi

aku bawak satu cite k? ni cite di sadur dari buku Stephen Covey..7 Habits of Successful Person..ko leh carik kalo de masa k?

dia bawak anak dia pi makan..pas tu waitress tu mai tanya order laa k? kendian sampai giliran anak kecik dia tu..dak lelaki ni..kecik lagik..wah dia order cam oang tua order..nak seme2..kendian pak dia gelakkan jek..suruh waitress tu order jek mende untuk kanak2..lepas tu waitress tu mai bawak makanan..dia bawak order budak tu sebijik cam apa budak tu order BUKAN macam apa pak dia suruh..wahhhhh pak dia tenguk anak dia punye 'body language' tu cukup berbeza, dengan mata terbeliak dengan senyum bangga dan puas..so dia blajo something..anak dia tu puas hati sebab dia di layan macam oang dewasa oleh waitress pompuan tuh. Untung nya pak dia ni..jenis very observant. Mende beso kuman pun dia noticed.

moral cite tuh..ialah memahami orang lain aaa ok? even budak tu masih minum susu mak dia pun..ko kene faham.

ko cakap adik ko sakitkan hati sebab asik dia nak menang. kenapa dia musti dengo cakap ko? takdok ka dia pilihan lain?
bukan tak biasa kes cam ni..macam kes anak dan ibu bapa..berapa ramai ibu bapa sakit hati sebab anak depa lawan cakap?
btui dak? tapi sebelum nak sakit hati..apa kata CUBA FAHAM depa tu duluk

nanti bila ko dah chap adik ko cam tu..ko da convince diri ko adik ko cam tu asik nak menang, asik sakitkan hati..dia buat mende btui hak dia suka dia pilihan dia punnnnnnn ko susah nak terima kalo pilihan dia tu lain dari kemahuan ko..susah nantik

kalo dia kuat ponteng..cuba faham..kenapa? sekolah tak bes ke? sekolah camna dia suke? subjek apa dia suke? kalo dia kuo merambu ngan kawan2 sampai jauh malam..cuba paham kenapa? duk umah tak besh ke? apa bes berkawan dengan kawan pilihan dia? cuba lah faham budak tu btui2..nanti kureng lah sakit hati tu..idok lah darah tinggi or mati muda2 lagik k?

bukan nya semata dia adik..dia kene ikut cakap abang, semata dia pompuan dia kene ikut cakap lelaki, semata2 dia tu kecik dia kene ikut yang besor..itu nama dia kebiasaan..kebiasaan or customs ni selalu berubah..bergantung ler kan?
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Post time 9-8-2008 07:11 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by hzln at 8-8-2008 03:04 PM
kdg2 aku keliru dgn jantina tuan rumah ni...kdg2 bunyi cam jantan, kdg2 bunyi cam pompuan, kat thread seblah ckp suka layan tgk men gymnastic, ice skating bagai....JANTAN layan men gymnastic ka?  ...


memang pompuan ponnnn..belagak jek cam jantan..gua perasan laaaaaaaaamaaaaaaaaa daaaaa....
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 Author| Post time 9-8-2008 07:21 PM | Show all posts

Reply #45 Cajole's post

laki la...adui...
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Reply #44 ajinomotonosuga's post

THANKS AJI..KO pnye explanation banyak mengajar dan memperbetulkan aku...macam ni la...
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 Author| Post time 9-8-2008 07:40 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by hzln at 9-8-2008 05:23 PM


hahahahah...patut lah kau tak mampu sebulu dgn adik kau....mcm ini rupanya kau ni....

p/s: sila pm email adik kau....aku nak berkenalan...kami sebaya...


Apa la hzln..baru je sekali east bertekak dengan adik..dah fikir east tak sebulu..kenapa?..apapun la, kan, aku rasa ko ni baik, tapi ko nak mengusik aku je...ok lah..maaflah kalau aku ada terkutuk ko secara tak sengaja..atau terkutuk kau punya orang disayangi ke, atau mana2 insan yang ada bekerjasama dengannya...tapi kalau ko tanya aku, kalau aku disakiti,aku malas nak balas...biar pi je lah...tu je cara aku...
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:15 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by Cajole at 9-8-2008 07:11 PM


memang pompuan ponnnn..belagak jek cam jantan..gua perasan laaaaaaaaamaaaaaaaaa daaaaa....


jantan ahhh beb...gua ada gambor...lu nak tengok?
tapi gua takleh tepek sini ahhh...kang dia marah gua, mengganggu pribasi
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:15 PM | Show all posts
adik kamu cakap salu nak menang ke lari timoq?

ko rugi seduit ka kalo dia menang cakap? apa ..dia kata fasha sendat lai lawo dari fazura ka? hihihihi

bila kamu dah btui2 jadi kawan dia..dia leh trust kamu..ko bohong pun dia caya..haaaaaa..paham dok?
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 Author| Post time 9-8-2008 08:18 PM | Show all posts

Reply #50 ajinomotonosuga's post

faham2...Tuan
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 Author| Post time 9-8-2008 08:19 PM | Show all posts

Reply #49 hzln's post

tak aku bukan jantan, aku laki.....

Ada gambar aku..ek..popularnya la plak aku, sampai ada orang nak simpan gambar aku...
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:21 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by hzln at 9-8-2008 08:15 PM


jantan ahhh beb...gua ada gambor...lu nak tengok?
tapi gua takleh tepek sini ahhh...kang dia marah gua, mengganggu pribasi



taktik lamo nak ngendeng  gambo

len kali .oang tulis tu caya jek..kalo nak gambo sekali pun..tanya lah ..bleh tak kasik gambo? aaa kan sempoi

tu da kasik gambo tuu..nak caya tu btui ke diaa?

kalo dah susah nak caya mende siber..camna lak senang caya gambo diberi ..kan kan kan?
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 Author| Post time 9-8-2008 08:23 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by ajinomotonosuga at 9-8-2008 08:21 PM



taktik lamo nak ngendeng  gambo

len kali .oang tulis tu caya jek..kalo nak gambo sekali pun..tanya lah ..bleh tak kasik gambo? aaa kan sempoi

tu da kasik gambo tuu..nak caya tu b ...


Wa...Tuan Aji sangat professional...terima kasih kerana banyak memberikan panduan dan mengajar saya...
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:32 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by eastrun at 9-8-2008 08:23 PM


Wa...Tuan Aji sangat professional...terima kasih kerana banyak memberikan panduan dan mengajar saya...


idok laa..

saya cuma tak pahamm

pasei manusia ni susah beno nak caya apa oang tulisss..

kalo oang tu dakwa dia pompuan..so pompuan laa

kalo dia kata dia jantan so jantan lah..dukkkkkk pot sana pet sini kata maybe pompuan

depa tak caya lelaki skang bleh bebel dan luah perasaan cam kaum depa kut

tapi kalo kaum depa leh buat apa lelaki buat..depa bangga dan caya.. tu pelik tuh haa..

tu sajaa..takdok eh propesional apo kobondo seme tu..
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:44 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by ajinomotonosuga at 9-8-2008 08:21 PM



taktik lamo nak ngendeng  gambo

len kali .oang tulis tu caya jek..kalo nak gambo sekali pun..tanya lah ..bleh tak kasik gambo? aaa kan sempoi

tu da kasik gambo tuu..nak caya tu b ...


wahahahhahahh skrg ni dah tak main dah mintak2 ni tuan aji.....kita taktik gerila ajer, pandai2 la nak selongkar...
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 Author| Post time 9-8-2008 08:46 PM | Show all posts

Reply #56 hzln's post

huhuhu...tak sangka lak ko nak bongkar gambar aku...kelako pun ada..
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:46 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by ajinomotonosuga at 9-8-2008 08:32 PM


idok laa..

saya cuma tak pahamm

pasei manusia ni susah beno nak caya apa oang tulisss..

kalo oang tu dakwa dia pompuan..so pompuan laa

kalo dia kata dia jantan so jantan lah..dukk ...


errrr...aku bulih bangga apa saja org pompuan buat apa yg selama ni org lelaki punya territory...kecuali panjat pokok nyoq kot...
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:48 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by eastrun at 9-8-2008 08:46 PM
huhuhu...tak sangka lak ko nak bongkar gambar aku...kelako pun ada..


moralnya....hati2 bila posing maut...
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Post time 9-8-2008 08:52 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by hzln at 9-8-2008 08:46 PM


errrr...aku bulih bangga apa saja org pompuan buat apa yg selama ni org lelaki punya territory...kecuali panjat pokok nyoq kot...


panjat nyoq dan kencing berdiri laaaa

lain lah nyah..dia kencing memang dirik
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