iparku yg bangang

iza_yuss · Post time 11-12-2008 12:48 AM

oh lalat

sbb apa ko masuk tred neh kalo ko cakap aku ulang benda yg sama

aku x paksa pon ko bace luahan ati aku

mesti ada sesuatu menyebabkan ko masuk jugak tred ni kan

xpon ko spesies abg ipar aku......thts y ko defend gila2

aku x kan tau sume cite2 yg aku dh cite kalo x kuar dr mulut akak aku

bukan dia sengaja nak citer...........dia TER

bila TER tu......faham2 ler.....mesti sumthing wrong

aku kenal akak aku sgt2

dia bukan kaki suke ngata kat org........ngumpat pon jarang

aku tau prasaan dia

kalo leh nak pertahankan marriage dia

tapi boleh ke dia wat sorang2 kalo xde kerjasama drpd abg ipar aku

KO TAU X TUJUAN AKU BUKAK TRED NI?
SBB AKU TAU ABG IPAR AKU SUKA SURFING TENET

MAY B JUGAK DIA NI FORUMER CARI
DGN HARAPAN, BACA LA WAHAI ABG IPARKU
TAHU KAH NGKO BAHAWASANYA UR WIFE AKA MY SIS MENDERITA
AND PLEASE HEAR WHAT SHE WANTS TO SAY
NI X.....ASAL AKAK AKU BUKAK MULUT JE.....SUH DIAM....XNAK DGR

~~dan kalo korang nak tau jugak.......sumthing yg akak aku citer kat aku......ni pon TERcerita.....benda ni akak aku x citer kat parents aku especially mama aku

abg ipar aku penah cakap.......kita pisah la kejap utk seketika........suh duk umah asing2.....akak aku pujuk laki dia jgn wat camtu

kalo ko sorang hubby yg baik n saba........x kan kluar ayat tu dr mulut korang........

aku dgr pon naik sedey........sbb tu aku jd anti gila2 kat abg ipar aku........dulu2 aku wat dek jek......kalo org wat camtu kat akak aku...........aku pon hot

iza_yuss · Post time 11-12-2008 01:02 AM

yang ni abg ipar aku cakap sendrik kat akak aku
aku pon terkujat
x penah aku ter pk nak rase bes ade degree.....
tapi dia yg mulakan dulu

ade plak nak jelez2.....pastu dia heran camne kitorg leh sambung blaja
x ke pelik soklan tuh
aku tanya ko la tu pon kalo ko blaja tinggi2

sbb apa ko blaja tinggi2
hah, sbb apa?

susah giler nak jwb
aku rase dia pon ada jwpn for this tricky micky question......sbb dia pon blaja gak

akak aku pon pening bila laki dia tanya camni
x penah kitorg nak pk camtu

igt aku suka bandingkan org blaja tinggi ngan blaja rendah ni
infact, aku kawan beb ngan cleaner kat tempat2 aku blaja dulu2
siap leh lepak borak2 lagi.........kalo la aku jenis pandang tinggi kat org berpelajaran jek, xde nye aku nak join cleaner tu

kdg ngan cleaner tu lebey baik borak dr yg study medi neh......

aku citer neh nak menunjukkan betapa abg ipar aku tu taksub gila ngan ke"bes"an dia study kat obersi

~korang leh la komen macam2.......aku pon kadang yg terlintas je aku tulih sini
kadang yg aku x hengat aku x tulis

blackmore · Post time 11-12-2008 02:19 AM

Originally posted by iza_yuss at 9-12-2008 19:59

aku pon x heran la gan sape dia nak kawan
but after he made sumthing bad to my family, kat mak aku, abah aku, kat biznez abg aku......sape leh tahan beb
dh le slama ni dia wat akak aku cam ...

...it just makes u feel so damn angry bila melihat orang2 yang ko sayangi disakiti dan dipersia2kan dan often...being treated with little or no respect at all...

...to witness one by one of your very own flesh and blood being treated unfairly by your brother in law and his family is much too much for u to handle...your mum had to suffer and endure the humiliation being treated like a servant by her besan...your brother had to suffer huge loses bila bisnis dia digagalkan by your brother in law...and most of all....your sister...your poor poor sister had to suffer living ngan seorang lelaki/suami yang dayus...and having a mother in law yang bent of making their marriage a failure...

...u wanted to help them...but u are helpless...u do not know how and what to do...and this makes u frustrated...angry...not only with them (your brother in law & co.)...u are also angry with your own parents - for choosing such a lousy partner for your sis...u are angry with your sister - for loving her dayus husband so much...and most of all...u are angry with your ownself...for not knowning what to do to help your family out of this situation...

...like ive said before...u are so full of angst...seriously...u need to chill down sikit...kalau ko betul2 nak tolong kakak dan family ko...then u have to have more control of your emotions...your mind and heart must be free from any form of biasness...u have to focus on strengthening family ties rather than finding faults and pointing fingers and putting blames on others...perbuatan ko ini hanya akan menyemai perasaan benci dan amarah saja...dan akan terbitlah jurang yang memisahkan family ko ngan family abang ipar ko...instead...ko perlu pull everybody together and each one of them must make an effort tuk memperbaiki hubungan masing2...

...ko tak mo your sister to end up having a divorce...cos ko sayangkan kakak ko dan anak2 sedara ko dan u do not want them to suffer further...ko nak suami dia treat her better and rite...betul kan???...

...so...if u do not want her to end up as a divorcee...then...u have to stop doing all these...u have to stop hating your brother in law...u have to stop bad mouthing him and his family...and u have to focus on how to make him love your sister more...on how to make him appreciate your sister more...dan sebagai permulaan...u can start off by making peace ngan your brother in law...ikhlaskan hati dan berbaik2lah ngan dia...and each time your sister ter-mengadu kat ko...ko berilah dia kata2 perangsang yang dapat menyedarkan diri dia daripada diperlakukan ngan tidak adil oleh suaminya sendiri...

...however...ko perlu ingat...as much as u want to help your sister...u cant do anything kalau dia sendiri takmo merubah nasib dan hidup dia sendiri...so...dont despair kalau ko tak berjaya membantunya...what is important is that u have tried and done your best...afterall sis...the weight of the world is not on your shoulder...let it go...

...ko nak luahkan perasaan ko kat sini...by all means...luahkan saja...cuma dont over do it...cos...it makes u look bad noe...really really bad...

[ Last edited by blackmore at 11-12-2008 02:36 AM ]

trusnowan · Post time 11-12-2008 02:32 AM

luahkan je.... hoping that in real life u x mengamok camni... it makes u feel better....feel relief...

iza_yuss · Post time 11-12-2008 02:49 AM

aku dh chill down kejap after "fren" dh kasi kata2 bes yg sedapkan ati aku

thanx ek geng

itu la......

aku bukak tred ni sbb aku rasa cam abg ipar aku may b masuk la forum cari ni

aku nak dia tahu apa sebenonya yg berlaku

dan jugak aku nak lelaki2 yg baca kisah ni amik iktibar

jgn wat wife camtu

dan jangan la tengking trus wife when she throws her opinions

dan jgn la ego....x kemana ego nih

satu benda yg aku suka lepak kt cari.....n alhamdulillah.....sume geng yg aku rase leh wat kwn.....sume baik2 belaka

ada yg bujang.....ada yg dh kawen...x kira lelaki pompuan....dr semua citer yg dh kawen, kalo dia tu laki, semua citer bes tentang wife.....ada respek kat wife....x tau betul ke x.....tapi bes la aku dengo life derang

so bagi aku....kes akak aku ni abnormal skit....dan banyak lagi spouse yg facing the same situation

so apa kata, amik iktibar semua.......baik yg dah kawen, mahupon yg blom kawen

~~tetiba aku leh kool dgn ko blek.....

iza_yuss · Post time 11-12-2008 02:50 AM

thanx

aku waraas lagi.....

aku ngamuk cni jek

hehehhe

trusnowan · Post time 11-12-2008 03:34 AM

ahahahhahahaha forumer ni masih ada... since 2003 .... cam aku gak... tapi dia pangkat tinggi(moderator)... aku lak byk jdi silent reader je....

aku suka dia punya opinion....

p/s:mintak RA

ok...back to the topic....

iza_yuss · Post time 11-12-2008 03:41 AM

ko nk mitak RA tu maknanya ko nak mintak kedit ke?

uiseh kwn....skang xleh dh mintak kedit gitu jek

aceheng dh warning

fair n square giteww

matakecik · Post time 14-12-2008 10:41 PM

walaupun aku dah ketinggalan nak bagi opinion aku nak bagi jugak

ko&family boleh cakap apa2 pun kata akak ko
kalau dia still mcm tue apa pun tak boleh ubah
dulu my sis pun ala2 mengikut je ..semua dia korbankan
kitaorg mmg tak campur / cakap apa2
sbb dia dah kawin apa yg boleh dibuat?
lagipun dia ne dr cara mmg gila2 backing hubby&belah sana(mayb nak cover je)
nasibla cepat sedar.. sedar sbb dengar mil cakap sesuatu yg betul2 dia terguris
start tue my sis jadi keras hati..barulah kitaorg tau mcm2 cerita
pedulilah apa sebelah ipar2 nak cakap apa
janji apa hak dia jangan org lain nak amik& dia takkan buat kalau bukan tanggungjawab dia
kronik jgak mysis sejak hari tue
sapa2 nak pijak2 dia..lazer je dia menjawab

alangGIRL · Post time 15-12-2008 09:06 AM

all i can say is... kesian kakak ko.... mcm mana la parents ko boleh nikah kan kakak ko ngan org camtu??

cinderella · Post time 16-12-2008 12:59 AM

Originally posted by alangGIRL at 15-12-2008 09:06 AM
all i can say is... kesian kakak ko.... mcm mana la parents ko boleh nikah kan kakak ko ngan org camtu??

coz sometimes people do judge a book by its cover...
aku plak tolong jawab..

pu3_krizalid · Post time 16-12-2008 08:52 AM

Apa yg haku bole komen..ko sbg adik takleh involve dlm mariage akak ko...cam haku pernah bg nasihat yg patut akak haku ikut...boleh la dia kata "ala dik..ko ckp senangla...ko tak berada di tempat haku.."

...bukan suma org leh terima pendpt org lain...cam akak ko tu jenis lurus susah tau nak suh dia bengkok...nak2 dia syg laki dia,...biarpun kita nmpk laki dia bodo cam tiang letrik...